Sadly, even a child’s life isn’t always without their fair share of trials and hardships. Most commonly brought on by others, difficult situations within families or close friends can often be challenging to explain to a child. However, keeping kids in the dark as to what is going on around them isn’t always the best option. So to help those struggling with how to handle tough times while with children, here are three tips for helping kids deal with issues beyond their maturity level.
Be Honest Yet Simple
While in the midst of problems like addiction, divorce, financial instability or other adult issues, it isn’t hard for little ones to pick up on the fact that something isn’t right. And although you might think it best to just brush it under the rug, HelpGuide.org shares that being open and honest is going to be more beneficial to the child than pretending like nothing is wrong. But keep in mind that just because you’re being honest doesn’t mean you have to give every detail. Depending on the age and maturity of the child, along with the sensitivity of the problem you’re facing, you may want to keep your explanations very simple.
Communicate Their Feelings
Even though children are small, they can still have very big feelings. Kids are generally very sensitive to their surroundings and can have their emotions easily influenced by them. The problem with this is they can’t always understand or articulate their own feelings. To help with this, KidsHealth.org recommends listening to what your child is trying to say about their feelings and help them put a label on those feelings. This could be very beneficial is helping them find a constructive outlet as well as process the stress of what’s unfolding around them.
Remove Any Fault From Them
When unfortunate circumstances happen around a child, it’s only natural for them to feel like they’re at least partially at fault. However, this sense of guilt can do extreme damage to them mentally and emotionally for years to come. For this reason, Linda Melone, a contributor to Addiction.com, advises parents or guardians to always stress to the child that what’s happening is not their fault. To the best of your ability, try to convey to your child that, regardless of their actions, the adult to which you’re discussing made their own choices. Stress that you love them and that you can get through this hardship together.
If your family or close friend is going through a struggle of their own, consider using some of the tips mentioned above to help ease the burden of this trial on the children in the vicinity. This could be just what you need to help calm the fears of the little ones around you.
Originally posted 2017-01-20 14:46:37. Republished by Blog Post Promoter